Patience. One of the
blogs I follow, Amazingly Awake, had an interesting point in her ezine I got
this week. I started following her through a post on Pinterrest – “25 ways to
be a Calm Parent”. Now being a working
mom, and step mom, I am the first to admit that I am not always patient. It can be hard when one is pulled in 20
directions at once. So I eagerly looked at her site, and signed up to follow
her via email.
The email I got earlier this week before embarking on my
trip was o ne that included a patience challenge. When I first read the email I was struck at
the irony of getting a patience challenge as I was embarking on a solo trip
with a six month old.
Being an ICU nurse and practitioner, I am not well known for
patience. In fact, I have often said
that I skipped that line when traits were handed out. As long as I can remember, I have been less
than patient always wanting things done right in the quickest manner
possible. I could give you a million
reasons why I have not been patient – I could tell you it was beaten in to
me. In fact, that wouldn’t be far from
the truth. That however, is a separate
story.
Have recently
realized that my drive for perfection is dangerous to my happiness as a wife
and mother. I feel as is if in order to
show my family how much I love them, I have to have the perfect home, and get
everything done. My husband, bless his
soul, has often tried to tell me that I show my love in other ways, not just in
how many chores I get done. I admittedly have had a hard time believing
him. Perfection has been ingrained in me
as the way one establishes ones worth. My
drive fpr perfection often makes me less than patient with my family and life
in general.
As part of the Mom Challenge, the first one was to slow
down. This was a difficult one for me
and one that is going to take more than 1 week to work on. However, it does go along with patience quite
well. Things are not going to be perfect
100% of time and that is ok. Things are not always going to get done on my
schedule. As long as the important ones
get done in a timely manner I have to learn to live with that. I may not get the dusting done but if the
clothes are clean and the family fed and happy then it is ok. The dusting, vacuuming, etc are chores that
can wait for another day.
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